There is often more going on with children than meets the eye. All too often adults try to interpret the behavior of children using adult reason, and sadly, these interpretations can easily be flawed.
I am personally very concerned about the modern trend to label every spirited child as suffering from a ‘disorder’, such as ADD, and then medicating them! One friend of mine has a rather naughty son. She has Mars in the 5th House; a very simple reading of that part of her chart suggests that, firstly, she is more likely to have sons than daughters, and secondly, that her child may well be a little warrior, and perhaps a bit of a handful at times, BUT, does he need to be medicated?! I don’t believe it. I’ve met the lad. He’s a brat, and that’s all. His mother won’t deny that she has to some extent nurtured his willfulness; I think she liked the idea of him being ‘his own person’. But children who aren’t shown boundaries keep searching for them until they find them; well certainly little Martians will!
My friend, a single parent, told me that it was suggested to her by the school or its resident psychologist that ADD children like her son are likely to end up imprisoned criminals if they don’t get the correct treatment. That is incredible! That manipulation is criminal! My friend tells me most of the children in her son’s class are on Ritalin. This seems to me a lot like the trend in obstetrics to perform unnecessary caesareans because it’s a handy way of bypassing an inconvenient but natural feature of being human. Children who don’t want to listen to what a teacher is saying may in fact simply be wanting to redirect their attention to other more playful activities (and, well, the sweets at the tuckshop may also have a role here, but nobody seems to think those drugs are a problem). This is not an aberration of the human condition!
Our modern society doesn’t like compromising with natural human needs and functions if it can help it. When providing what a human naturally needs (I’m thinking proper food, rest, social interaction, leisure time, safe products, devices and environments) is inconvenient to the great impersonal god called Economic Progress, the great impersonal god is bound to prevail.
Collectively we need to honor ourselves by truly understanding what we are and what we need to blossom as what we are. We need to adapt what we eat, how and when we work, how we play and connect, and the devices and products we use, to what we are. Perhaps I digress…
Where does astrology come into this?
I believe astrology can contribute to our understanding of what we are, and I think this is certainly true of our understanding of children who, thank heavens, are often able to express themselves with complete sincerity, and yet are just as often unable to make themselves understood to adults steeped in the dehumanized values of modern society.
I once encountered a exasperated mother at a market with a wailing baby on her shoulder. She said, ‘I’ve had a difficult few days with him, he’s had diarrhea, and must be the “terrible twos”‘.
The fact that Mars takes two years to complete a round through the zodiac was a fact I had just recently been exposed to (this was at the very beginning of my astrological journey). Could the ‘terrible twos’ be the Mars Return, I wondered? What intrigued me all the more was the fact that Mars was just then in Virgo, so diarrhea would fit that symbolism nicely. This was in the early 1990’s, long before I used computers, so I whipped my ephemeris (which I carried around with me everywhere) from its pouch, and looked at the baby’s birth date. Lo and behold, this sick and angry boy was in the throes of his first Mars/Mars Conjunction!
When my first daughter’s first Mars Return approached I was keeping a close eye on her for any signs of malcontent. The only thing that happened- but it was quite amazing in itself- is that for two days she became very hot! She didn’t seem to feel ill, so I’m not sure if that would qualify as a fever, but she radiated an intense heat. I did notice that from that day onwards she was more independent; almost a little more boyish. Now, I don’t know what’s going on there, and I am not in the position to observe children by the dozen just when they’re having their Mars Return, but something is going on there. We could learn so much about milestones in a child’s development by watching them astrologically.
My second daughter’s mother called me concerned that our daughter was behaving strangely. She was morbidly preoccupied with death and always asking about it. She didn’t want to fly, fearing the plane would crash. There were other symptoms too. I looked at my daughter’s chart and noticed she was under Saturn Square Saturn, and the orb was really tight just then. Her mother was on the verge of seeking professional help. I suggested she give it a little time to let this transit pass. As Saturn moved on, the new awareness got settled and assimilated, and there was nothing more to worry about. Apparently it was really just a case of my daughter processing the ‘stark reality’ of Saturn. It’s part of growing up. Saturn Square Saturn occurs around age 7, and it is well known that this age is an important developmental milestone, but this incident is an example of how using astrology to pinpoint the specific month the Saturn/Saturn Square comes into focus (which won’t be at precisely the same age for every child) helped to place otherwise worrying behavior into context developmentally.
How often does it happen that people of all ages, in fact, get diagnosed and medicated for conditions that are simply an awkward adaptation to a natural cyclic developmental process. Sure, people may need drastic support at times, but the nature of these processes are not as fully understood by conventional authorities as they assume. They notice symptoms, but the real causes are more elusive. Often a condition that would have passed before long (and astrology could reveal the timing, along with some hints about the nature of what’s being dealt with) ends up becoming a psychiatric diagnosis (and perhaps a medication regime) carried around like a millstone for a lifetime.